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Ghosting (from social media) can be surprisingly therapeutic


If there’s one thing that I learned or realized the past days, is that you don’t need to go to a cozy, isolated place to have some profound me-time. Sometimes all it takes is to take a time off of social media and do whatever that makes you happy.

I made a deal with myself, days before the long weekend strikes, that I won’t go online just for three days. That I’m going to dedicate those three days mainly for reading books, doing household chores, manning our little retail store, and catching up on some shows in Netflix. Basically to be productive rather than just lying on my bed scrolling through my phone, jumping from one app to another.

I admit doing this was not so much of a hard decision. I’ve been wanting to take a short break from social media for so long and if there’s a perfect time for me to do it, it’s definitely on a long weekend. Long enough for me to contemplate on life, I guess.

Turned out this decision was one of the best I’ve done so far. Who would have thought that this social media hiatus could be so beneficial?

I know that taking a break from the online world will increase one’s productivity, based on the articles I’ve read. However, it’s different when you experience it yourself. You will just be surprised that in a span of an hour, you’ve done so much already; cleaning the house, doing the laundry, reading a book, and cook meals for your family. The latter being the most surprising one. My whole family knows how much I dread cooking. Believe it or not, I’d rather wash dishes than cook or prepare meals.

Not only that this social media break turned me into a short-lived family chef but a full-on couch potato as well. In hopes of avoiding my phone to turn my Wi-Fi on and do the inevitable, I turned to television then browse through Netflix. Watched some feel-good, hilarious movies and binge-watched shows like The Politician, Dear White People, and more. I was experiencing an utter solitude but nevertheless enjoyed much of it.

And can I just say that it’s been a while since I had this kind of absolute peace in my entire life? If I were to ask if I would do this again, I definitely would. No second-guessing. It’s very rare to experience peace around you nowadays.

Funny how by just staying at home, doing absolutely everything to keep yourself busy to avoid social media or even doing nothing can be such an amazing, fulfilling journey to self-discovery. But more than inner-peace and self-discovery, it’s my mental health that had made the most significant impact. I was less distracted and more focused which had led me to become more productive — both at home and at work.

You owe it to yourself to “ghost” sometimes. But not to the person you’re talking to in an online dating app (if you know what I mean). Just simply disappear. Then do all the things that you once enjoyed or missed doing. Only then you will realize that there’s more to life than scrolling through social media sites.

Remember that we all deserve to take a break regardless of how long or short. Take your time. It doesn’t matter how you’re going to disappear or what kind of “ghosting” you will be doing. As long it gives you the inner-peace you’ve always wanted to attain and it lets you discover things about yourself that you haven’t gotten to discover before then I guess you’re in the right track.

Life is, after all, a journey to self-discovery. You just need a vacation sometimes.